Who couldn't use a little more time to do what you love to do and live a life with a lot more balance between work, play, being mommy, wife, friend, and chauffeur? Based on the overwhelming majority of people's comments and emails that I receive, I'd say most of us could use more time and balance. So if we all need it, how will we ever find it? Is it too much to ask for a little downtime, girl time, scrap time, and alone time? I think not, and here are three solutions that have worked to create that time for me!
Cleaning Messes
It really is amazing how much time messes steal from our lives. From the disorganized entryway to the cluttered cupboards, messes rob us of time that could be spent doing things we love. Here's one solution that I found.
- Make a list of all your messes. It may feel overwhelming, but overcoming denial is the first step to recovery. My list had 64 messes when I first created it. Two months later, I'm down to 40. It's all about progress and forward motion.
- Organize your list of messes by room, importance, or difficulty level. I chose to list them by room (living room, office, garage, car, etc.)
- Decide which messes you can handle on your own and which you need help with. Label them S for self and O for others.
- Begin wherever you feel most comfortable. If you want to start with the easy ones so that you can feel a sense of accomplishment, go for it (that's what I did!). If you want to start with the ones that you can have others do or help you with, start making phone calls and arrangements.
- The key is to make progress. Start ticking those messes off your list. Get help. Get accountability and start to clear out the space in your life for doing what you really want to do! (Check out one of my before and after messes below!)
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Take Back Your Time
Many women, wives, and moms spend a good portion of their time and energy doing what they think they should or ought to do, rather than what they really want to do. Now, some of that is necessary. We may not want to do the laundry, but unless you can afford a live-in housekeeper or weekly maid, then that might not be an option for you. However, there are certain things that can be eliminated, streamlined, or delegated. Let's see how:
- Create a chart of your roles and areas of responsibility. It might look like this: Wife, Mother, Employee, Housekeeper, Friend, Sister.
- Under each role or area of responsiblity, list the tasks that accompany that role. For instance, under housekeeper, you might have laundry, cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc.
- DO NOT let this list overwhelm you. You're probably already overwhelmed, so let this list validate you. It validates that you are needed, that you are valuable, that you are legitimately busy and overwhelmed.
- When your list is done, take a break. Make yourself a cup of tea or go grab a cup of coffee from Starbuck's. Whatever you need to do, give yourself at least 5 minutes to acknowledge all that you do on a daily and sometimes hourly basis to make the lives and worlds of those around you more happy, blessed, and harmonious. You matter!
- Once you've acknowledged your contribution, look through your list objectively. Try to identify one activity in each area of responsibility that could be removed, delegated, or simplified.
- For a delegating example: under laundry--have each member of your family do their own laundry or help with their laundry by sorting clothes, transferring them, or folding and putting them away. It may require training, but offering little rewards can go a long way.
- An example of simplifying for me is making 12 dinners at a place like Dream Dinners or Dinner My Way. I still get the benefit of home cooked meals for my family and I get 12 dinners done in one hour. This drastically reduces my grocery shopping and cooking time each month. (Check out my photos from a girls night out at Dinner My Way!)
Schedule Time for YOU!
The last tip of the day is scheduling time for you. Whether it's scrapbooking, writing, knitting, exercising or resting, put it in your calendar and keep the appointment. Even if it's just once a week or even once a month, having something that you know you can count on to rejuvenate and inspire you is vital. If you crave girl time, set a standing coffee date with a girlfriend. You probably both could use the time together and keep each other accountable. If you really want to get back to scrapbooking, call you local scrapbook store and find out when their crops are. Most stores have a weekly or bi-weekly crop that you can join. I go to my lss every two weeks for Midnight Madness on a Friday night. I get scrapbooks complete, spend time with girlfriends, and get a break from the daily routine of my life. Whatever it is that you crave and know you need to keep yourself sane, do it. Make it happen. While others may complain or resist at first, do it anyway. They'll begin to see a happier woman, wife and mom when you start to nurture your self!
You really can make change. Begin small...make baby steps...get help! If you'd like more tips, send me a note, join our free e-zine and start doing the things you love! I'm here for you, let me know how I can help!
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